Erin and I were already boyfriend-girlfriend before we ever went on a typical date.
Most of the time we got together, we went straight to each other’s homes, where we could talk one-on-one for hours.
When I get to know a person a little and sense that something wonderful could develop if we were to mutually progress to a deeper, more intimate level of sharing, I’ll share my thoughts and feelings openly with her and then ask if she feels the same.This makes it safe for her to be open and honest with me as well.Erin knew she could trust me and that I wouldn’t play games with her.We established a long-term connection based on honesty and openness.I think you’re a very special woman, and we obviously have a lot in common.
I’d love to develop a closer relationship with you. In fact, by the end of that phone call, we already saw ourselves as being boyfriend-girlfriend.There’s a much more direct way to express interest in someone you like and to kick off a mutual exploration of relationship possibilities. Simply tell any potential partner up front how you feel about them and that you’d love to explore relationship possibilities together. This may take some courage, but it takes very little time.As Erin and I got to know each other, I realized I was becoming attracted to her.I’m wondering if you feel the same.” How long did that take? Alternatively, I could have played all sorts of silly games to try to figure out how Erin felt about me.The direct approach achieved a resolution in less than one minute. This openness and directness quickly took our relationship to a whole new level.Dating is a rather timid way to get to know someone.