There's also the sense that some men are using their profile to advertise themselves as the perfect Jewish husband-in-waiting: “Lots of them are just looking for a wife, ASAP – they post pictures of them with their nieces and nephews, basically saying, 'look what a great dad I'll be'.
It's a bit off-putting.” And for Leah, herself an interesting, intelligent young woman, the men on the site seem a little, well, uncool.
“I don’t really meet Jewish people in everyday life; I don’t go to Jewish events and my social circle isn’t particularly Jewish.
My friend was on JDate and said it was fun.” Some of the issues she's come across are similar – lots of messages from people in the older age bracket, and guys who are based in wildly inconvenient locations, like Israel or America.
Having a religion in common with someone doesn't actually guarantee you have anything else in common.
Of course, it's not just Christian women who try and find a partner who will share their culture and beliefs.
As well as the issues of “he's too pious,” or “he's just a bit boring,” there can be far greater worries about whether potential suitors are simply weighing up your worth based on your ability to secure them a visa. The whole experience raises a bigger question: how do you find someone of faith to share your life with when you are in a minority?
“I've tried a few of the most popular Muslim dating sites,” says Aisha*, a Sunni Muslim. Sure, there are success stories – we've all known someone who knows someone who found her “soulmate” online.sexual orientation are entitled to the full and equal accommodations, advantages, facilities, privileges, or services in all business establishments of every kind.” The men claimed the company “has engaged in a systematic and intentional pattern and practice of arbitrary discrimination against gays and lesbians throughout California by denying them full and equal services.” Now, instead of asking whether someone is a “woman seeking a man” or a “man seeking a woman,” the matchmaking service can only ask if users are male or female.The lawsuit doesn’t just impact Christian Mingle, but other-faith based matchmaking websites run by Spark Networks, including LDSSingles, for Mormons, and Catholic Mingle.Conservatives denounced the decision as a strike against religious liberty and an unnecessary interference in private business.“Early on in their quest to legalize homosexual marriage, advocates assured us that it would not infringe on the rights of others, especially people of faith,” Carrie Gordon Earll, vice president of public policy at Focus on the Family, said.“From dating sites and adoption agencies to small businesses, it’s clear today that people of faith are being forced to compromise or risk financial ruin.” In 2013, two gay men filed a lawsuit against Christian Mingle because users can only search for potential partners of the opposite sex.Christian Mingle, a dating website targeting Christian singles, has agreed to open its matchmaking service to clients seeking same-sex relationships.