Dating after being single for a long time

You take a serious, almost business-like approach to finding a partner (which doesn’t mean you don’t have fun on dates! You date consistently, and use any method available to you to find dates, whether it’s getting set up by friends, dating online, or meeting people in bars.

You’re not willing to waste your time right now on someone who you don’t think has long-term potential, so it’s a lot of first dates with no follow-up.

While you should have goals in your relationship, of course--see more on that here--just make sure that they're realistic, not geared towards being an Instagram-famous couple.

Image source:i Stock over-share--no need to send minute-by-minute updates on your bowel movements or anything--but remember that you have to share more than you were probably used to when you were single, since relationships rely on communication.

So, start with little things--telling your partner how your day went, thing you want to do with them, what you're looking forward to during the weekend, whatever--and move on to bigger ones, like letting them know if things aren't going so well.

Feeling unhappy about something in the relationship?

Image source:i Stock Just as you should share things with your partner, you have to get used to asking your bae about their lives.

This should come pretty easily--since, you know, if yo're dating someone, I assume you have at least some sort of genuine interest in their life--but make sure you're inquiring about things going on with them. You're probably used to doing things your own way--doing this on Friday nights, hanging out with these people at school, etc.Try to figure out what, exactly, is the right amount to be texting them (too little seems uninterested; too much seems clingy). Starting to date someone new after you’ve been single for a while.And, of course,you have to know when the right time is to stop acting polite and proper around them (like Drake and Rihanna in the “What’s My Name” video) and when you can really become your true, weird self (like Drake and Rihanna in the “Work” video. Whether you’ve been single for your whole life and this is your first actual relationship, or it’s just been a a sizeable chunk of time since your last boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s tougher than it should be to jump into something new–no matter how giving, altruistic, and caring you are, you’re kind of used to just having to care about and maintain your relationship with yourself.This can be little things, like day-to-day activities, as well as bigger issues, like things in relation to their family or your relationship. Your partner, on the other hand, probably has some things different going on.Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you have to give up your own thing, it just means that you have to talk about it and figure out where you can meet in the middle to make your relationship successful.Instead, you’d rather talk about your last relationship to your (very patient) friends. Related: 15 Perks to Being Single 2) The Single Who Is Painfully Aware of Being Single You see yourself as being single above everything: in your mind, it’s your defining characteristic. There’s no good reason you’re single, that’s just how things sort of are for you right now.